Let’s Talk Sex

 

*Fires confetti cannons*

*Spins in a circle*

*Pours chocolate syrup over head*

 

Ahem

So then. The always fantastic people behind Simply for Lovers have foolishly graciously given me full reign of their lovers’ blog. I am beyond excited about this. And here’s why:

First and foremost? It’s a kickass site. Seriously… an entire blog devoted to all things sex, romance, dating, and relationship? What’s not to love about that? They also have a site where they sell all kinds of toys, games, lingerie and other sexy time essentials. I’ve already been writing their fantasy of the month for some time now, and I love, Love, LOVE being able to do that. Writing a steamy, sexy, fantasy for people to enjoy is something I’ve gotten a serious kick out of. (It’s actually got me thinking that writing erotica may be in my future.)

What’s more, I really think this is a fantastic idea. Sex is something we all have, we all enjoy and for whatever reason, nobody wants to talk about it in the light of day. I say, forget all that. Sex, romance, and love should be discussed. They should be talked about, explored, compared. How can you have the most fulfilling love life possible if you’re not willing to stretch your wings a little?

Just check out my interview with suicide girl and adult film actress Mandy Morbid about what the average couple can learn from a porn star if you don’t believe me. It may change your mind about what “adult performers” are like in bed!

And now it’s your turn. If you’re a blogger, writer, sex enthusiast, or just have a distinctive point of view, I’d love to hear from you.

Are you involved in a polyamourous relationship and are willing to be interviewed? Have a music blog and want to share the best playlist for getting busy? Maybe you’re a stay at home dad and have great ideas for keeping the romance alive in your marriage. Maybe you have experience coming out about your sexuality and think you can help someone who is confused. Or perhaps you’re a food writer/own a lingerie shop/have a disability and want to share your ideas on aphrodisiac foods/the best corsets for large chests/how to get down without getting hurt.

I’m looking for folks who (anonymously or not) want to share some info and ideas, want to do a guest post, are willing to be interviewed or just plain have something to say about love and sex.

Also, if you like contests, giveaways and games, you may want to follow SFL on twitter (@SimplyForLovers) for lots of fun.

So go ahead, leave me a comment or get in touch with me at VLazabal (at) Yahoo dot com. I want to hear from you. Even if you don’t want to be a part of the blog itself, I’d love to hear about the kind of stuff you want to read about, whether it’s vibrator reviews, tips and tricks, steamy stories, ideas or something else altogether!

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Los Angeles: The Writer’s Natural Habitat

 

“There are just as many starving writers in Los Angeles as there are actors parking cars.”

 

That was my mom’s standard response whenever I told her I wanted to be a writer, beginning somewhere around age 5 when I first fell in love with the written word. (Incidentally, the irony that I began the freelance writing career that allowed me to raise my brother and sister only after she passed isn’t lost on me. I like to think it makes her smile, wherever she is.)

 

At any rate, I understood her desire for me to focus on a more stable career path. Hey, I’m no dummy. L.A’s smoggy, congested streets are littered with the broken dreams and half-finished manuscripts of the writers that came before me. But if there’s anything I’ve gleaned from my time hustling articles, blogs, press releases and web copy it’s that I am nothing if not tenacious and driven. Instead of being discouraged by all of the unemployed and “aspiring” writers in the City of Angels, I’ve come to discover that there’s plenty about my home town that’s actually pretty inspiring. So, as I carve out my “I am going to start writing fiction, too, even if it kills me” plan, here’s a look at some of the (sometimes surprising) reasons why I love LA –

 

Characters are Everywhere

Seriously. Have you ever been to Los Angeles? Or any part of California, for that matter? There are characters, personalities, fascinating people everywhere for you to explore and gain inspiration from. I grew up in a part of North Hollywood where most people roll up their windows and try to drive through as quickly as possible. Thinking back on my grandma’s apartment complex, I could probably populate an entire novel with the characters behind those faded numbered doors.

 

There was the incredibly sweet old woman old woman who still wore the huaraches she’d crossed the border in every time she walked to the Laundromat; her face a crisscross of deep lines and a wide, toothless smile. The gang bangers with wrap sheets longer than they were, who always – always – brought my grandma’s groceries into the apartment for her so she wouldn’t have to carry them. The German man who lived across the street and washed his old and immaculately kept Volvo every afternoon, muttering way too loudly about how this used to be a nice neighborhood. And, of course, my own loud Cuban family.

 

Basically, everywhere you turn in Southern California, you’re going to run into someone with a story. And those people make for great stories.

 

Beauty is Inspiring

No, I’m not talking about the perfectly plastic and polished actresses strolling along Rodeo, or the buff bodies strutting their stuff on Muscle Beach. (Although, there is a lot of that kind of beauty in this town, too.) No, I mean there’s something about the city and the suburbs themselves that are beautiful. And that kind of setting inspires.

 

I live in a high desert suburb now, where there’s not much traffic and sunsets over the Joshua trees and mountains still catches my breath. But I’m a close drive from lakes, beaches, palm tree-lined streets, soaring buildings… basically there’s something to see all over the place, and that variety and scenery is a gift for writers.

 

It’s Gritty

Behind all that beauty, of course, is the noir side to the city. Crooked cops, riots, tension, drugs, pollution… The best art comes from pain, and LA is definitely a city with a past. Tapping into that is sometimes all the inspiration you need.

 

You’re Not Alone

Finally, there’s something to be said for the fact that there are so many damned writers in LA. Writing is often a lonely, confusing world. Knowing that there are talented, struggling, successful, and brilliant writers near you that you can talk to, ask advice from, and who just *get* what you’re going through makes you feel less like an island and more a part of a community.

 

So there you have my reasons for loving LA. Do you find inspiration from your location? Is there something about your town, city, state, trailer park, UFO or farmland that pushes you to be better at what you do?

And the Nominees Are…

 

After being recently nominated for the fantabulous Versatile Blogger Award, it is now my honor to present to you 10 intriguing, intelligent, and otherwise completely cool blogs worth looking at. Some of these are writing related, some are not, but all are completely awesome. Ready? Here we go, in no particular order:

 

 

  1. http://delilahpaints.blogspot.com/

This is Delilah S. Dawson’s blog. A great romance writer and hysterical Twitter-er.

 

  1. http://laughingfrommysickbed.blogspot.com/

A must-see type blog for any spoonie out there.

 

  1. http://tuneintoyourautoimmune.wordpress.com

Another inspiring and though provoking blog for anyone dealing with autoimmune issues.

 

  1. http://foodmancingthegirl.blogspot.com/

If you’re at all a foodie (which I completely am, can’t lie… love getting my creative vibe going on in the kitchen) then this blog is definitely worth checking out. I’m nowhere near Charleston, but still get a major kick out of the extensive food porn on this blog.

 

5.  http://terribleminds.com/ramble/blog/

While absolutely on the NSFW side, this blog has some of the BEST writing advice I’ve ever come across. “Finish your sh**.” Enough said.

 

6.  http://www.writersdigest.com/editor-blogs/there-are-no-rules

This blog from the editors of Writer’s Digest is full of insider advice. A must read for new and experienced writers.

 

7.  http://www.simplyforlovers.com/blog/

Well sure, this blog mostly makes the list because I am the new official writer for it. BUT, I feel the need to let you all know that it’s actually quite full of fun and sexy ideas, tips, tricks, and steamy fantasies. (Also, NSFW, obviously)

 

8. http://www.lamebook.com/

Everyone needs a laugh break. When you should be working but would rather be cracking up, check out these hysterical Facebook status FAILS blog.

 

9. http://myhusbandisannoying.com/

This blog, where a woman bares her soul to the Internet in an attempt to avoid divorce or homicide, is not only relatable, it’s hilarious.

 

10. http://theinvisibledisease.blogspot.com/

A fantastic blog for anyone living with or supporting someone who has an invisible illness.

She’s Back! (My Triumphant Return to the Blogging World)

 

So it’s been a little over a month since my last post, and for this, faithful followers, I am sorry. I hot a rough patch, health wise, and was conserving my energy and only using my writing powers to get work done. But no more! I’m feeling a bit better, and what’s more, I am more motivated than ever before to take my writing to the next level.

 

For those of you that liked my post on some of the sultrier work I’ve published recently, I am pleased to announce that I am officially the new Fantasy of the Month and Suggestion of the week writer for Simply for Lovers. I highly suggest you check them out for all of your adult toy, massage, lingerie, and sexy reading needs.

 

I have all kinds of other news and plans to share with you all. So stay tuned and I will be back with more soon!

 

*Takes Bow*

*Exits Stage to Thunderous Applause*

I’m Sexy and I Know It

One of my absolute favorite parts about my job is getting to write fun and feisty content for unexpected clients. Today, purely by accident, I discovered some of my articles seem to be living a much wilder existence than I am.

 

A while back, I sold a couple of erotic short stories to the site Simply for Lovers, which sells adult toys and lingerie and has all kinds of steamy tips, tricks and naughtiness. I probably don’t have to tell y’all that the link is NSFW, but I’m giving you fair warning anyway. So if you get caught by your boss, or your husband or what not, I don’t want anyone blaming me. Actually, come to think of it, it probably wouldn’t be such a bad thing if your hubby caught you, right? All wanton and breathless and heaving bosom and take me on the desk… ok wait, this blog is sort of bordering on NSFW-dom right now, isn’t it? Anywho, both stories seem to be doing well, although this one has gotten quite a few enthused responses, which makes me a happy writer. Here’s the second one, which was also well received, so yay.

 

Come to think of it, I could probably be totally content making a living as an erotic storyteller type, should anyone be inclined to pay me to do that. HINT HINT, PENTHOUSE – I’M AVAILABLE!

 

Also, I discovered today, quite by accident, that another couple of my articles, which I sold through a third-party agency, were actually bought up by an escort service in Vienna. Check them out here and here and, duh these would also be NSFW. Oh, and if you’re ever in Vienna and you’re into that sort of thing, there are some remarkably attractive women up for grabs, just sayin.

On The Peculiar Pets of Miss Pleasance

Being a reader with lady parts, I’m not ashamed to say that I indulge in the occasional romance novel. In fact, I have often said that a well-written romance is my dream gig, and will most likely be the first thing I actually publish of my own. However, I will be the first to admit that I am all kinds of picky when it comes to my girlie reading. I’m all about a good plot first and foremost. I’ll take a little paranormal with my story, as long as it’s not all throbbing members and heaving bosoms. In fact, I tend to steer clear of anything that doesn’t have a modern setting, and have been known to toss aside a freshly purchased novel at the first sign of a heroine that can’t seem to find her own backbone.

Maybe that’s why I’d avoided the whole steampunk thing thus far. Hey, I’m not normally one to roll my eyes at an entire genre without giving it at least an honest to goodness shot first, but it all seemed a little out of my comfort zone.

And then, in the midst of my quasi Twitter stalking (Twaking?) swearalicious author Chuck Wendig and Stephen Blackmoore (who’s Dead Things I absolutely could NOT put down) I stumbled across another author with lady parts – Miss Delilah S. Dawson. If you’re the Twittering kind, I highly recommend you check all three of them out, as they are Twitterific. At any rate, it didn’t take long for me to develop a total word-crush on Miss Dawson. I figured if she could keep me chuckling and entertained and thinking with 140 characters or less, it would definitely be worth checking out what she could do with a whole novel.

As it turned out, her brand spanking new novella, The Peculiar Pets of Miss Pleasance was due out in 48 hours. I figured it would be the perfect gateway into the whole steampunk romance world, as well as a peek into her Wicked series of novels. Boy, am I glad I gave it a shot!

First and foremost – yes, it’s part of a series. But, I didn’t read anything that came before this, and I didn’t feel the least bit lost. I will say that I probably would have felt more “in the know” had I read Wicked as They Come first, but all in all, I had no trouble keeping up.

The whole tale takes place in Sang, a parallel world crafted by Dawson where live animals are a rarity, and living, breathing pets are rarer still. In the midst of this somewhat Dickensian London sits Needful Creatures – an actual pet shop run by Frannie Pleasance. Frannie happens across a needful creature in the form of Casper, a fellow that reminds her of her late brother. She gives the drunken cad room and board, and it isn’t long before he’s flirting away.

And then we meet Thom – a sexy Scottish fireman in a kilt. Think a love triangle is coming? Think again.

Soon, strange things start happening to and around Frannie, and it’s obvious that someone is out to do the feisty pet shop owner harm.

Dawson weaves an incredibly detailed story, making you feel a part of her world from page one. The character development is quick, which is important in a work this short. I found myself immediately drawn to Frannie, and relating to her – despite (or maybe because of?) the whole steampunk vibe. Oh and Thom? Totally yummy hero.

Five stars to The Peculiar Pets of Miss Pleasance, and I’ll definitely be reading more of Delilah S. Dawson’s work in the near future. Hey, who knows, maybe she’ll swing by and write a guest post? (A girl can dream, can’t she?!)

Writers Write!

 

Writers write!

When I first set my stubborn Cuban-bred mind to become a wordsmith, that was my mantra. I sat down at my clunky old computer one fine afternoon and decided that I was going to do it — finally!– I was going to follow my passion and disregard every well-meaning piece of advice I’ve ever gotten. I was hereby a writer, dangit, and writers WRITE!

Well, what nobody told me was that writers also have to pay the rent and keep the lights on. That’s when I set the idea of Barnes and Nobel book signings and long lines of adoring fans waiting overnight in the rain to scoop up my latest novel on the back burner. Hey, it’s not that I gave up on my dream, but no one wants to fight Big Earl for the least soggy box under the overpass. I became a freelance writer, picking up various jobs writing for websites, advertising companies, online magazines, and the occasional BDSM club. (Rent, remember?)

And along the way, I discovered something fascinating. I wasn’t stewing at the keyboard every day, sobbing into my latte about how I’d sold out and become something I was ashamed of. Instead, I was  having a great time. I was writing! And learning all kinds of various things, which is awesome for a word nerd. I picked up a job writing about lingerie and swimwear for a fabulous company. I learned how to write radio copy and heard my work on the air. I found out that leather chaps can chafe a little if you’re not careful…

At any rate, I’ve come to love my job as a freelancer, as it affords me the opportunity to explore and write about just about everything. Do I still yearn to see my name on a hardcover, clutched in the hands of a slightly rabid fan who secretly dreams of tying me up, Misery style because they can’t get enough? Of course. Which is why I’ve worked writing fiction back into my 3 year plan. But I’m not sure I’ll ever give up the freelance gig completely, because I’ve really grown to love the freedom it gives me to explore things I might never have written about otherwise.

Well, unless I fall into a soft patch and stumble across a winning lottery ticket worth a couple mil. Then you’ll find me on a private yacht, heading towards the Greek Isles as I dictate my memoir to a cute scribe with broad shoulders…