Let’s Talk Sex

 

*Fires confetti cannons*

*Spins in a circle*

*Pours chocolate syrup over head*

 

Ahem

So then. The always fantastic people behind Simply for Lovers have foolishly graciously given me full reign of their lovers’ blog. I am beyond excited about this. And here’s why:

First and foremost? It’s a kickass site. Seriously… an entire blog devoted to all things sex, romance, dating, and relationship? What’s not to love about that? They also have a site where they sell all kinds of toys, games, lingerie and other sexy time essentials. I’ve already been writing their fantasy of the month for some time now, and I love, Love, LOVE being able to do that. Writing a steamy, sexy, fantasy for people to enjoy is something I’ve gotten a serious kick out of. (It’s actually got me thinking that writing erotica may be in my future.)

What’s more, I really think this is a fantastic idea. Sex is something we all have, we all enjoy and for whatever reason, nobody wants to talk about it in the light of day. I say, forget all that. Sex, romance, and love should be discussed. They should be talked about, explored, compared. How can you have the most fulfilling love life possible if you’re not willing to stretch your wings a little?

Just check out my interview with suicide girl and adult film actress Mandy Morbid about what the average couple can learn from a porn star if you don’t believe me. It may change your mind about what “adult performers” are like in bed!

And now it’s your turn. If you’re a blogger, writer, sex enthusiast, or just have a distinctive point of view, I’d love to hear from you.

Are you involved in a polyamourous relationship and are willing to be interviewed? Have a music blog and want to share the best playlist for getting busy? Maybe you’re a stay at home dad and have great ideas for keeping the romance alive in your marriage. Maybe you have experience coming out about your sexuality and think you can help someone who is confused. Or perhaps you’re a food writer/own a lingerie shop/have a disability and want to share your ideas on aphrodisiac foods/the best corsets for large chests/how to get down without getting hurt.

I’m looking for folks who (anonymously or not) want to share some info and ideas, want to do a guest post, are willing to be interviewed or just plain have something to say about love and sex.

Also, if you like contests, giveaways and games, you may want to follow SFL on twitter (@SimplyForLovers) for lots of fun.

So go ahead, leave me a comment or get in touch with me at VLazabal (at) Yahoo dot com. I want to hear from you. Even if you don’t want to be a part of the blog itself, I’d love to hear about the kind of stuff you want to read about, whether it’s vibrator reviews, tips and tricks, steamy stories, ideas or something else altogether!

And the Nominees Are…

 

After being recently nominated for the fantabulous Versatile Blogger Award, it is now my honor to present to you 10 intriguing, intelligent, and otherwise completely cool blogs worth looking at. Some of these are writing related, some are not, but all are completely awesome. Ready? Here we go, in no particular order:

 

 

  1. http://delilahpaints.blogspot.com/

This is Delilah S. Dawson’s blog. A great romance writer and hysterical Twitter-er.

 

  1. http://laughingfrommysickbed.blogspot.com/

A must-see type blog for any spoonie out there.

 

  1. http://tuneintoyourautoimmune.wordpress.com

Another inspiring and though provoking blog for anyone dealing with autoimmune issues.

 

  1. http://foodmancingthegirl.blogspot.com/

If you’re at all a foodie (which I completely am, can’t lie… love getting my creative vibe going on in the kitchen) then this blog is definitely worth checking out. I’m nowhere near Charleston, but still get a major kick out of the extensive food porn on this blog.

 

5.  http://terribleminds.com/ramble/blog/

While absolutely on the NSFW side, this blog has some of the BEST writing advice I’ve ever come across. “Finish your sh**.” Enough said.

 

6.  http://www.writersdigest.com/editor-blogs/there-are-no-rules

This blog from the editors of Writer’s Digest is full of insider advice. A must read for new and experienced writers.

 

7.  http://www.simplyforlovers.com/blog/

Well sure, this blog mostly makes the list because I am the new official writer for it. BUT, I feel the need to let you all know that it’s actually quite full of fun and sexy ideas, tips, tricks, and steamy fantasies. (Also, NSFW, obviously)

 

8. http://www.lamebook.com/

Everyone needs a laugh break. When you should be working but would rather be cracking up, check out these hysterical Facebook status FAILS blog.

 

9. http://myhusbandisannoying.com/

This blog, where a woman bares her soul to the Internet in an attempt to avoid divorce or homicide, is not only relatable, it’s hilarious.

 

10. http://theinvisibledisease.blogspot.com/

A fantastic blog for anyone living with or supporting someone who has an invisible illness.

Versatile Blogger Award WOOHOO!

 

Among the fabulous comments and notes I received during my little hiatus from the blogosphere, I was thrilled to find that a fellow blogger (and fabulous fibro chick) had nominated me for the Versatile Blogger Award!

 

You like me… you really like me!

 

Now this is awesome on several fronts. Thank you very much, Miss Chrissy Faery, for the nomination. Y’all should probably go check out her blog, because it’s pretty effin cool. So winning this distinguished honor comes with two responsibilities: telling your readers 7 fun or interesting things about yourself, and nominating 15 other awesome bloggers for the award. I have decided to split this up into two posts, in order to completely milk the awesome good feelings for all they’re worth. Er- I mean to give both aspects of my nomination the respect they deserve. So here we go, ladies and germaphobes – seven things you didn’t know about me!

 

  1. I want to write a killer romance novel

I absolutely love the idea of penning a sexy, smart, witty romance or chick lit novel. Which is actually pretty surprising to those that know me, because I tend to be a bit of an anti-chick. I’d rather watch the Exorcist than the Notebook. What can I say? Which brings me to…

 

  1. I’m fascinated by the paranormal

Ghosts, hauntings, possessions, Santeria, mediums, spirit communication… anything that gives us a clue as to what happens when we leave this physical world has always fascinated me. I love Long Island Medium and American Horror Story, and writing paranormal fiction is on my writer’s wish list.

 

  1. I’m a complete audiophile

Whether I’m writing, cooking, cleaning, or mindlessly updating my Twitter status, I’ve almost always got music playing. Sometimes I think my Skull Candy earbuds are an extension of my physical being. My tastes are pretty eclectic, too. A quick glimpse of my recent playlists reveal everything from Frank Sinatra. Train and The Sex Pistols to Pink, Maroon 5 and Martina McBride, with a million things in between.

 

  1. I love to cook

Getting my kitchen on is an awesome way to let my creative freak flag fly, and I’m all about it. I’ll try new things all the time. And I love to make up my own recipes.

 

  1. I can be really mean to myself.

There are things I can control. There are also a lot of things I can’t. But just because something is completely out of my control doesn’t necessarily mean I won’t beat myself up over it. This is especially true of things that limit me, like my lupus and fibromyalgia. If I’m too sick to work as much as I like, or if I have to put something off for later or leave a function early, I take it tough and immediately get down on myself. I’m working on this.

 

  1. My cat is as clumsy as I am… and that’s saying something

I have an all black cat, named Onyx. I love her. I really do. I think she might need glasses. Her depth perception is way off. She falls off of things, like the bed, on a regular basis. The other day she fell into the bathtub where I was soaking. I’m still wearing the battle scars. The thing is, I completely understand her. I once set my own hair on fire. I have clumsiness issues of my own. So, really she’s more of a familiar than a pet.

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  1. Despicable Me is one of my favorite movies, ever

You could say that I have a very young aspect to my personality. That being said, I absolutely LOVE those “children’s” movies that have as many jokes geared towards adults as for kids. Despicable Me is possibly my favorite of these. My boyfriend gave me my own minion (stuffed, sadly) for my birthday. His name is Dave and he rocks.

 

So there you have it, guys. Seven things you probably didn’t know about me! Next post, I will give you all my list of 15 Versatile Blogger nominees, so that you can go out and explore their fantabulous blogs on your own! Till then… ASSEMBLE THE MINIONS!